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Will it ever end?
by Gen Goad
Will It Ever End
Fifty six years ago I was sold to the "Catholic Family"
with the most money.
No one cared if they would be good parents or if I would be
loved, just how much money I would bring. A
sad story that reflects the mindset of the times. Today adoption
is different, you would be quick to say.
However, you would be wrong. It may not be a stigma to have a
child out of wedlock, but it carries the
same "shame" that it did long ago. Babies today aren't
sold for $37.50 but for thousands of dollars, so at
least the value of a baby has risen. I don't think so. It is
still the family with the most money to pay for the
best stock. Now the adoption agencies can afford to advertise,
can break your heart with the stories of
the abused, mistreated children. Now the government offers tax
breaks or incentitives if you will adopt.
Why are they all jumping on the band wagon to protect children
and find them good homes? Because it
means money and votes. Three months ago I saw my great grand
daughter for the first and last time. She
was placed for adoption by my 13 year old grand daughter. My
grand daughter had gone to Planned
Parenthood for help when she became pregnant. After filing out
the forms and talking at length with a
"very friendly lady", she was referred to an Adoption
Agency. I will always believe her looks and the
father's looks had something to do with this referral. She was
told she would receive "alot of money" and
all her expenses would be paid. What 13 year old could turn this
down. The decision was all hers. She
has special attention--"Call anytime you want to talk".
She receives "extra spending money", clothes from
the adoptive parents that she personally picked out, taxi rides
to the doctor's office and weekly notes and
pictures from the "parents-to-be". What my
granddaughter didn't receive was counseling. Not one minute
of it. The adoptive parents were there when the baby was born
along with the lady from the adoption
agency. When she was three days old, she left the hospital with
her new family. For seven months my
grand daughter received more notes, pictures of the baby and
calls from the agency inquiring about how
she was doing. This was an "open" adoption or at least
we were told that. The day the adoption was
final, we all met at the agency to see the baby and her parents.
They named her Jordan. She has big
beautiful brown eyes, a big smile and looks exactly like my grand
daughter did at that age. I got to spend
two hours looking at her. She was afraid of strangers, so I was
unable to hold her. We all left with tears in
our eyes and promises of more pictures and progress reports.
Guess what? Not a word! My grand
daughter hasn't heard a word from the adoptive parents or the
"concerned" adoption agency. In fact, they
won't even return her calls. You can imagine what my grand
daughter is going through. She can't sleep,
won't eat, and her behavior is awful. She blames everyone. She is
just a child, a child who was asked to
make a decision that is extremely difficult for an adult and now
she realizes she was lied to. They took
her baby, promised her contact and when the final papers were
signed, threw her aside. She no longer
had something they wanted. She was no longer important. And so, I
ask you this. Take a moment to let
these words sink in and then ask yourself, do you care. Are we
going to allow this continue. Just because
someone says they are so concerned for the children, that the
children deserve a loving home, don't
deceive yourself into believing that they do this for the
children. It's the money, plain and simple. As long
as there is big money to be made, the lies will continue. Will it
be your sister, your child, your grand child
or your great grand child who is sold to the highest bidder? This
has been happening since 1900, how
long will we allow it to continue.
Written by Gen Goad- Co Founder of ABORN
UPDATE: GEN GOAD WAS REUNITED WITH HER BIRTH SISTER ON TUESDAY
AUGUST 15th 2000
by telephone with the help of the ISSR.
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